Somatic Coaching

Relationships, Communication, Desire, Pleasure, Intimacy, Presence, Healing

Whether you are dating, wanting to be closer or move through stuckness in a romantic relationship, desiring skills for deeper community connection, or wanting to understand yourself more, this work is for you.

Pleasure is juicy, and it grounds us in ourselves, in the world, and in each other. We serve no one by denying ourselves our truest desires. But most of us don’t grow up in a world where there is space to even notice our desires, let alone ask for or act on them. Let me support you in making space for desire, finding total approval for ourselves, building resilience to shame, and learning skills to connect and repair.

Some of the work I love to do includes:

Support and coaching for conscious dating
Working through self limiting beliefs
Working through barriers to desire
Supporting queer and gender journeys
Working with non-monogamy and non-traditional relationship structures
Navigating kink, shadow work, and desire
Supporting navigating boundaries in relationship
Providing tools and skills for relationship repair
Holding a safe container for personal exploration and getting out of your own way around your deepest desires!

MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling
10 years experience working with people to overcome trauma and move towards self compassion
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner
Somatica trained Sex and Relationship Coach
Existential Kink Coach in training

Hi and welcome to my own journey out of “good girl” conditioning. I worked in helping fields, in migrant and domestic violence shelters for years before obtaining my masters in counseling. I always had an interest in sexuality and in getting off script, but in my personal life, it was finally owning my own queerness at age 36 that allowed me to start asking “what do you really want for yourself?” After moving through my own self gatekeeping, and a history of keeping myself stuck in patterns of unrequitedness or settling for much less than I wanted in relationships, I practice showing up in relationships and being able to receive the love I want. I would love to guide you on these journeys as well!

I am a dedicated feminist with a social justice lens and a commitment to nuance while holding respect for the ways that our identities impact the ways we move through the world. I come from a mixed-ethnicity background (white and Arab) and understand ways that culture can both support and constrain us.

I think knowing how to relate well is a fundamental human skill that most of us are not taught. The skills of finding and maintaining authentic connection help us find fulfillment in our relationships and navigate our changing world.

Dunya Cope

Services

Somatic Experiencing

SE is a modality to support nervous system regulation and help people move out of old and stuck patterns and traumatic imprints, including stuckness or over-reliance on fight, flight, or freeze energies. I support you in noticing and tracking your body sensations and we incorporte image, emotion, and insight as we find creative, compassionate ways to increase resilience of your nervous system in daily life.

I have found success using this modality virtually in the past several years.

Learn more here

Sex and Relationship Coaching

Let me support you in a variety of relationship concerns: communiction, repair skills, finding and navigating boundaries and desires in an embodied way, addressing barriers to sexual desire, increasing access to pleasure, exploring confidence and blocks in dating, navigating alternative relationship structures, exploring kink and finding and exploring your hottest sexual desires.

I am trained in the Somatica method of sex and relationship coaching; learn more here

I’m happy to use my skills acquired over the past decde to help you explore other stuck relational patterns or difficulties in meeting your whole self, ending patterns of people pleasing or other ways that we give ourselves up to find connection. I also am a student of social movements and love supporting people who are doing change work in the world find more sustainability and resilience, unlearning the conditioning of oppressive systems.

I am training in Existential Kink coaching and can incorporate those lenses as appropriate and desired. Can I support you in the possibility that maybe there is no sensation we have to fear in this world?